Roger Ebert praised Rob Reiner as one of Hollywood’s best comedy directors and emphasized the chemistry between Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan.
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- The transcript reports Ebert’s positive assessment and his focus on the two leads’ chemistry.
The final preferences split among the first diner conversation, the Temple of Dendur scene, and the wagon-wheel coffee-table breakdown; many other compact scenes are preserved as nominations.
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- The 1977 car ride, grape spitting, diner order, Sheldon discussion, days-of-the-week underwear, and last-page habit are nominated as an opening cluster.
- The 1982 airplane scene is nominated for the airport rule, white-man’s overbite, and debate over post-sex affection.
- Carrie Fisher’s first lunch and Bruno Kirby’s batting-cage/baseball introduction are nominated together.
- The Temple of Dendur “pecan pie” conversation is nominated for its photography, playfulness, and submerged romantic tension; one participant selects it.
- The failed double date and the cab aftermath are nominated.
- The Sharper Image “Surrey with the Fringe on Top” scene is nominated.
- Harry’s “wagon-wheel coffee table” breakup rant is nominated and becomes one participant’s final choice.
- The split-screen calls after Harry and Sally sleep together are nominated, with the difficult 61-take production story included.
- The New Year’s Eve ending is admitted despite reservations discussed later.
- The Katz’s Delicatessen fake-orgasm scene is recognized as iconic but rejected as overlong and less rewatchable.
- The first diner scene receives one final preference for setting the film’s tone through a dense run of jokes.
Nora Ephron’s script, the 96-minute structure, friends-to-lovers premise, soundtrack, sexual candor, supporting friendships, old-movie references, and memorable micro-phrases form the episode’s longest praise list.
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- The screenplay and Ephron’s voice remain clean, influential, and highly readable.
- The 96-minute runtime wastes no scene and avoids modern padding, contrived villains, and overloaded will-they/won’t-they plotting.
- Friends realizing mutual love remains a powerful movie and real-life template.
- Harry Connick Jr.’s classic-song soundtrack avoids the dating effect of period pop choices.
- New York restaurants, Sally’s changing hair before the perm, her intricate ordering, and the Knicks drought jokes remain vivid.
- Carrie Fisher’s “Joe’s available,” Jimmy Breslin, and the warning about sleeping with a friend remain sharply observed.
- The movie’s frank treatment of sex, different expectations, and Harry’s absolutist friendship theory remains productive and mostly nonoffensive.
- Nora Ephron is treated as irreplaceable and New York in autumn as permanently beautiful.
- References to Casablanca and older romantic comedies teach viewers to rewatch and argue about movies.
- The fake-orgasm scene helped make discussion of women’s sexual experience more open, and “he’s never going to leave her” remains practical relationship advice.
- The Pictionary arrows and phrases such as “baby fish mouth” show how small jokes became durable shared language.
The choices split among “Sheldon the Wonder Schlong,” “Don’t Fuck With Mr. Zero,” “Baby Fish Mouth,” and “Miss Hospital Corners.”
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- Nominees include Baby Fish Mouth, Sheldon the Wonder Schlong, Don’t Fuck With Mr. Zero, I Spy a Family, Pecan Pie, Buenos días, Señor, Sphinxie, Miss Hospital Corners, and Christmas Gravel.
- Two participants favor Sheldon the Wonder Schlong, with one also calling Don’t Fuck With Mr. Zero funniest.
- Another vote goes to Baby Fish Mouth and another to Miss Hospital Corners.
The overexposed fake-orgasm scene, Meg Ryan’s perm and final-scene acting, dated aerobics and retail references, Billy Crystal’s age makeup, couple conformity, and lack of diversity are criticized.
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- The fake-orgasm scene has lost surprise through repetition and now feels long, though its final line remains iconic.
- Meg Ryan’s crying-scene perm is called an exceptionally bad haircut.
- The heavily clothed aerobics or tap class feels unmistakably 1989.
- Teenagers may no longer understand the Casablanca references even though the film itself has aged well.
- The Sharper Image store and Theodore Roosevelt shooting reference require lost period knowledge.
- Jess’s wedding speech is called mean by some panelists because it jokes that neither bride nor groom was attractive to their friends.
- Meg Ryan’s repeated “I hate you” response in the climax is criticized as weak acting against Crystal’s strong speech.
- Billy Crystal’s college hairpiece and aging treatment make him look older in 1977 than in 1989.
- The story treats heterosexual coupledom as the only satisfying outcome and contains no visible gay or Black characters.
The couple who worked in the same Chicago building and rode nine extra elevator floors wins unanimously; the Asian couple with the striking white hair stripe is runner-up.
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- All three stated preferences converge on the “nine extra floors” couple and their overlapping speech rhythm.
- The older Asian couple is also praised for the woman’s distinctive hair.
Albert Brooks declined Harry; Susan Dey, Elizabeth Perkins, Elizabeth McGovern, and Molly Ringwald were considered for Sally, with the panel strongly preferring the released pair.
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- Albert Brooks reportedly declined because the project felt too similar to Woody Allen and Broadcast News territory.
- Susan Dey is reported as Rob Reiner’s first Sally choice.
- Elizabeth Perkins and Elizabeth McGovern were reportedly considered.
- Molly Ringwald reportedly had a scheduling conflict; the panel rejects her as a poor match with Crystal.
- Meg Ryan gave up Shelby in Steel Magnolias to play Sally, opening that role for Julia Roberts.
Carrie Fisher wins unanimously for making Marie a specific, fully legible person rather than a generic rom-com sidekick.
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- Fisher’s Rolodex selfishness, repeated “You’re right, I know you’re right,” and emotional economy make five scenes feel career-defining.
- The panel compares her favorably with later rom-com best friends and argues that Ephron’s friends are people rather than one-note assistants.
Research covers rejected titles, Crystal isolating himself, real-couple interludes, Gerald Ford’s son, the original platonic ending, Reiner’s changed outlook, and improvised material.
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- Ephron reportedly proposed “How They Met,” and a crew contest considered Just Friends, Playing Melancholy Baby, Boy Meets Girl, Blue Moon, Words of Love, It Had to Be You, Harry, This Is Sally, and How They Met.
- Billy Crystal reportedly stayed apart from the cast and crew in another hotel to find Harry’s lonely mindset.
- The interlude couples are reported as real people rather than actors.
- Gerald Ford’s son Jack played Joe.
- The script initially kept Harry and Sally platonic; Reiner changed the ending after meeting his future wife during production.
- A 2004 stage adaptation starred Luke Perry and Alyson Hannigan.
- Reiner and Crystal met playing best friends on All in the Family, and Carrie Fisher knew Reiner through Penny Marshall.
- Harry and Sally’s final interview was reportedly improvised from a much longer filmed exchange.
The released title wins; “Harry and Sally” and “It Had to Be You” receive some support among the documented alternatives.
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- The panel ultimately prefers the specificity and memorability of “When Harry Met Sally.”
Rob Reiner receives a qualified case, while Billy Crystal, Meg Ryan, and New York are rejected in favor of later or earlier peaks.
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- Billy Crystal is rejected because City Slickers and his Oscar-hosting run take him higher.
- Meg Ryan is rejected because later signature movies and an uneven filmography complicate the case.
- Rob Reiner is proposed and partly accepted, though Misery and Castle Rock/Seinfeld success make a later peak plausible.
- New York as a pop-culture setting is proposed and rejected in favor of the 1970s.
Bruno Kirby wins because viewers know him as Harry’s friend or young Clemenza more readily than by name.
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- His death and the deaths of Carrie Fisher and Nora Ephron are noted after the selection.
Meg Ryan wins as the only serious nominee, especially for Sally’s crying after Joe’s engagement; the panel also questions the character consistency around karaoke and the fake orgasm.
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- Ryan’s crying, tissue-dropping, and rapid tonal shifts are judged too broad and messy.
- The panel debates whether several uninhibited moments fit the otherwise controlled “Miss Hospital Corners” characterization.
The panel challenges Harry’s age makeup and locations, the travel time, unshown careers, Emily breakup, post-sex behavior, dual phone lines, missing best-man speech, disconnected friend circles, food-bar hygiene, and compressed dating timelines.
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- College-age Harry looks far too old.
- Sally appears to drop Harry and all his luggage in Washington Square Park, and the location complicates assumptions about his final run.
- Chicago to New York should take closer to twelve or thirteen hours than the stated eighteen.
- Neither Sally’s reporting nor Harry’s political consulting is ever shown or meaningfully specified.
- Harry’s breakup with the attractive pie-business owner Emily is unexplained.
- Harry’s panic and abrupt departure after sleeping with a close friend feel under-motivated without more drinking or bad sex.
- Marie and Jess inexplicably maintain separate landline numbers on opposite sides of one bed.
- The film omits what should have been a strong Billy Crystal best-man speech.
- Sally, Jess, Harry, and Marie unrealistically remain in isolated pairs despite overlapping journalism and New York Magazine circles.
- Picky, hygienic Sally uses shared hot-food-bar tongs across dishes.
- Joe says “I love you” after one month, while Harry brings an anthropologist to a wedding within three weeks of sleeping with Sally.
The climax’s “when you realize…” speech is treated as the emotional pinnacle; the infidelity symptom, “basic nightmare,” Baby Fish Mouth, restaurant/pesto, and “only person I knew in New York” lines are also essential.
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- “That symptom is fucking my wife” is praised for comic rhythm.
- Marie’s “thin, pretty, big tits—your basic nightmare” and Sally’s “I just want it the way I want it” are nominated.
- Harry’s final speech, culminating in wanting the rest of life to begin immediately, is treated as the defining passage.
- Marie quoting Jess’s restaurant essay and adding that pesto is the quiche of the 1980s is a favorite.
- “It’s too bad, because you were the only person I knew in New York” is praised for its later callback.
A present-day ten-episode remake is rejected; a period version or a carefully written late-life sequel is imaginable, though the panel strongly resists moving Harry and Sally out of New York.
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- A present-day series built around direct messages and texting is judged inert.
- A 1990s period treatment or two people forced together abroad is proposed as the only workable long-form remake.
- A sequel could make Harry and Sally an older interview couple, explore their 35th anniversary, or center their adult children, but the panel fears an unwanted reboot.
- Nancy Meyers, Meg Ryan as screenwriter, political-pundit Harry, and a Brentwood/Palisades relocation are proposed and repeatedly challenged because New York is essential.
- A divorce-and-reunion sequel is rejected because the characters already resolved their avoidable mistakes.
The panel asks whether the film would be better without the romantic ending, how far Harry ran, and whether its success helped Seinfeld receive more episodes.
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- Would the film be better if Harry and Sally stayed friends?
- How far does Harry run to the Puck Building? Research estimates half a mile and about six minutes at five miles per hour.
- Would Seinfeld have received its four-episode continuation without this film proving an audience for talk-heavy New York friendship stories?
The ballot remains disputed between Billy Crystal and Nora Ephron: Crystal receives an explicit choice and a later wavering lean, while Ephron’s enduring structure and voice receive two explicit choices.
The ballot remains disputed between Billy Crystal and Nora Ephron: Crystal’s irreplaceable performance receives two explicit leanings, while Ephron’s enduring structure and voice receive two explicit choices.
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- One participant chooses Billy Crystal for the final speech and the comic material that makes the film distinct.
- Another leans Crystal because no other actor could sell the part, while resisting separating him from Meg Ryan.
- One participant explicitly chooses Nora Ephron for establishing her later run and the modern rom-com form.
- A second explicit choice moves to Ephron because the script could support other compatible lead pairs.
- The discussion wavers back toward Crystal; one view is that the movie does not work without this particular pairing, so the chemistry is the real winner.
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